Category: Lifestyle

The Divide

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THE DIVIDE:
If you don’t pay attention to public policy, politics, and our ever changing culture, you could find yourself in a world of confusion. Most importantly, you have to know where you stand. There has always been conflict in the Black community because there has always been different types of Black people: The Black people that are simply trying to make it, and the Black people that think they are better than other Black people because their speech, hair, job/career, education, and dwelling spaces are different.

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Thank U, Next: End of year reflection

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2018 has been a year of loss, endings, and feelings of perplexity. You know that feeling when you are in a state of the unknown? When you know everything is changing around you but you don’t know what the end result will be and if you’ll mentally and emotionally survive… That was how I felt. I had to remind myself that the Universe is always working in my favor regardless if I can see or feel what’s happening. Having a friend die unexpectedly helped put some things in perspective for me. Death has a funny way of making you reevaluate your feelings, life, and your relationships. Continue reading “Thank U, Next: End of year reflection” →

Is dating hard or are you making dating hard?

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One of my best friends refers to me as a “professional dater.” Though I’m not necessarily proud of the name, I am proud of being able to enjoy myself and live in the moment while dating. And when I say dating, I literally mean going to restaurants, museums, art shows and movies with a man. IT DOES NOT ALWAYS EQUAL HAVING SEX.

Let me guess. You’re reading this blog about me being a “professional dater”. You’re also seeing all these couples and people getting married on your timeline. Meanwhile you’re wondering why you can’t get a text back or a decent date. I absolutely cringe when I hear women say “I hate starting over and getting to know someone all over again.” Continue reading “Is dating hard or are you making dating hard?” →

All little Black girls know the importance of getting their hair done..

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All little Black girls know the importance of getting their hair done. It has to be styled ever so correctly, or they run the risk of being teased in school and online. Other parents will say things like “Her Mother should be ashamed of herself for not doing her hair!” What is considered doing a little girls hair? Kids will call them ugly, nappy head, etc. Most people find that braids, ponytails (with straightened hair), or in a wrap. Just think about the comments made about Blue Ivy’s hair. This pressure of what your hair has to look like increases tremendously as an adult with different trends and styles being deemed appropriate. It’s constant hair buying, weaving, pulling, braiding, dying, perming, pressing, washing, blow drying, sewing and REPEAT! Continue reading “All little Black girls know the importance of getting their hair done..” →

A Golden State of Mind

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I like to think of the glass as half full rather than half empty. Of course there are days when my negative thoughts are stronger than my positive ones, but I remind myself that being positive brings more positivity to me. Being positive isn’t as easy as the memes on Instagram display. You actually have to work towards being positive. Continue reading “A Golden State of Mind” →

Things you shouldn’t say to someone suffering from anxiety and depression!

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Anxiety disorder is the most common mental illness in the United States, affecting about 40 million adults per year. It’s not unusual for people who have anxiety to also suffer from depression, and vice versa. The most common form of depression is Major Depressive Disorder- which affects roughly around 16.1 million adults.

Some of us suffer from both anxiety and depression when major life altering events occur, such as losing your job, death, a break up, and even your family expanding. If you have never experienced either one, consider yourself lucky, but when you receive that call from a friend or family member please keep these things in mind to be considerate: Continue reading “Things you shouldn’t say to someone suffering from anxiety and depression!” →

Enjoy life!

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Just a few days ago my life was what I consider normal. I had made plans for this weekend to attend a new bar and pool party with my friends. But, today is different. Death came to remind me that I am not in control and that it could hit me, my family, and my friends at any given moment. Death had to remind me that nothing and no one can be taken for granted. Continue reading “Enjoy life!” →

The bag!

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On the internet, it seems like everyone’s goal is to get to the bag- which is a great thing! We can’t eat, pay bills, or live without getting a bag. Money is a necessity, and I’ve come to the conclusion that enough of it is never really enough. You’ll always want more so that you can do more. Continue reading “The bag!” →

Damn she thick!

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When you meet someone at the gym, grocery store, mall, or social gatherings, all you have to go on is what they look like. He or she may be attractive to you so you exchange numbers. Usually ladies give their numbers out to see how interested the guy is in her. If he calls, great! If he doesn’t, oh well! Normal, right? Continue reading “Damn she thick!” →

Things you didnt know about Rachel Dolezal

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A few years back I wrote an article about Rachel Dolezal and her claim to fame by identifying as a Black Woman. I don’t think I was harsh in the article but as always I told my truth. I had been debating watching the Netflix documentary on Rachel and her family. I must say I’m glad I decided to watch.  There is no excuse for portraying something that you are not. Especially when it comes to something, so sensitive such as race and ethnicity. Let me state this Rachel could only pass as Black in America due to her privilege. Privilege has allowed her to live the American dream as far as being who you want to be, and doing what you want to do. However, she did assist in bringing awareness to the people of Spokane, WA about the active racism there. Rachel has to understand that you can be White in America and fully support the Black movement and bring awareness to racism, systematic racism, and injustices of the world. Continue reading “Things you didnt know about Rachel Dolezal” →