When you meet someone at the gym, grocery store, mall, or social gatherings, all you have to go on is what they look like. He or she may be attractive to you so you exchange numbers. Usually ladies give their numbers out to see how interested the guy is in her. If he calls, great! If he doesn’t, oh well! Normal, right?
Let’s just say the guy calls. You talk for a couple of days to feel each other out, and then things get tricky. In my experience, men seem to think sex is on the menu by the third conversation. I’m a person that checks myself, so I ask myself “Did I say something sexual?” Nope, I didn’t. Did I have a sign on my forehead that says “WHORE”? Nope, I don’t see any sign on my forehead! Then I question my clothing. In all of the instances that I can think of, I was in gym clothes. I was either on my way to the gym or leaving the gym. I am not a small girl. I am what men consider to be thick, so my clothes- no matter what I’m wearing- usually just appear to cling to me.
I started wondering do slim girls get the same sexual responses from men. The only time I can relate to being skinny was as a child, so I called one of my friends that was skinny for a long period of time as an adult to ask about her experience. When I was trying to explain my dilemma to her she said ” Oh yeah they think because you’re thick you’re automatically fucking (having sex freely)!” MIND BLOWN! My friend explained that once she gained weight, lots of men were hounding her, and the comments they made upon contact were usually along the lines of “damn you’re thick!” If the conversation doesn’t start with sexual innuendo, by the third conversation it’s in full swing. But she wasn’t approached with sexually aggressive language when she was skinny.
I usually write blogs about more serious topics, but this was really bothering me. Every woman is unique in her own way, regardless of her body type. I hear smaller women say that they wish they were more shapely with a bigger butt, legs, or breasts. Women with fuller figures have a desire to be smaller in size in certain areas of their bodies. However, it has become obvious that no woman wants to feel like a piece of meat when being approached by a man. Of course you’re supposed to like the way someone looks when you approach them, but don’t be disrespectful and distasteful with your comments. When you get to the level of texting or having conversations on the phone, there are questions that you can ask in order to see if she’s interested in casual sex. You don’t have to just smack her in the face with penis talk, or even worse dick pictures!
Bottom line: Be respectful!