I am not a mother but I am a leader, a life learner, and a mentor. When I was a teenager, I had my times with my smart mouth just like any other teenager, but I was never disrespectful to adults. Even if I didn’t want to hear what an adult was telling me, I listened anyway because you can’t debate an adult. Debating an adult would be disrespectful.
Remember when you were in school and you didn’t want the teacher to call your parents because you knew you would be in trouble? It’s not that your parents would automatically accuse you of anything, but you knew you were doing something wrong. Now let’s fast forward to today!
These kids seem to have no fear of consequences. If a teacher calls their parents, the parent might beat them up. Their idea of fun is going to pick a fight with someone so they can record it and send it to World Star or save it to youtube. Did I mention they have smart mouths? How do you have a smart mouth yet you’re stupid? You don’t know anything about how things work or processes and procedure. You don’t even have common knowledge.
These kids are too focused on partying, video games, and being popular via the internet- all because they lack basic social skills. They are participating in adult conversations, picking out hair color for their extensions, sagging their pants or wearing skinny jeans, mini skirts, booty shorts etc…, finding a boyfriend/girlfriend, or making a MeMe for people to laugh at via social media!
When you raise grown kids, they often become unprepared adults. You get men that can’t decide whether or not they want to remain on their mothers bosom or stand on his own two feet. You get women that constantly blame other people for the things that have gone wrong in her life instead of accepting the fact that she’s a poor decision maker.
Someone better let them know that their college applications are going to be empty if they don’t have any volunteer work to add. You also need extra curricular activities. The real world doesn’t care about what your parents let you get away with. It will not fly! Knowing all the rap songs and the local neighborhood celebrities won’t get you far. Oh and the real world doesn’t celebrate mediocracy! In other words, you don’t get rewarded for being average!
Stop trying to be something that you’re not! Be a kid because that’s what you are! You will be grown soon enough! It’s okay to listen to adults with life experience, especially if they are only trying to help you! An open mouth can’t possibly hear anything!
They are not focused on the future they’re only worried about today…and they talk tooooooooooo much and never listen because they “know it all”. This is Not ALL but MOST…you can’t help people who “don’t have a problem”
I have like 36 first cousins. Mostly girls! They have driven me to the point of no return. I no longer try to help and I no longer offer guidence because all they do is get attitudes with me. It’s sad!
I used to tell my younger cousins all the time, you have the rest of your life to be adult, there is no rush. Right now, if you’re blessed, you have everything you need and then some, all you have to do is go to school and get good grades, that is you ONLY job. But we definitely live in a time where almost anybody can be a “celebrity,” even if you have no talent, you just need to go viral! So we have all of these impressionable kids trying to “come up” without doing any work. And I agree with Taynia, it’s hard to help someone who “doesn’t have a problem.” When I was working with kids and trying to explain to them how advertising works and how you think you’re making you’re own decision but you’re really not, they WOULD NOT believe me (I’m sure nobody wants to be told that though lol) and I said look around, you ALL look alike (in terms of style) and they all said they made the decision to look that way lol…can’t tell them nothing right?