Yoni Steam Me Please

 

The first time I ever heard of a Yoni steam was on an episode of “Girlfriends.” I know it’s sad but it’s true. I didn’t think much of it at the time, besides it being interesting. But, now that I have friends that solely practice womb care, are Doulas, and midwives I started to become more interested in what a Yoni steam is all about. Continue reading “Yoni Steam Me Please”

Why Oprah & Gayle will never be my Aunties

 

 

 

 

IMG-5019Both Oprah and Gayle are pioneers of the media. They are both what is considered to be high profile, accolade decorated, researching journalists that have been in media for 30+ years. Knowing these details about them only increases my sadness, because honestly they know better than most, that their behavior is damaging and toxic to society.
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No Time

Generally Speaking

It’s that time of year again! Another year is ending and a new year awaits us. I’m always excited about the New Year. It just feels like a fresh start on life. Not to mention it’s a great time to reflect on past events of your life, and plan out new territory you want to conquer in the future. It’s a time to make changes and free yourself of burdens if need be. Some of us do those things daily, but many of us don’t!

So what have we learned this year?!

Lessons of 2019

  1. Some men can’t handle being your friend once they realize the connection you had no longer exist. Which means their love was conditional. As long as they were able to control the narrative of the relationship and dictate what happens everything is great. But, the minute you move on and accept them as a past experience you become the devil. That’s not love or friendship it’s simply an unhealthy male ego!
  2. Some friends you can talk to about anything. Then there are some friends that you have to select what you can share with them. All friends aren’t good listeners because they can’t hear anything beyond their own perspective or reality.
  3. Some friends are in a secret competition with you, which means you already won. But, you have to realize that friendships of that magnitude are limited. Is that really even a friend?
  4. Love has no time frame, so don’t try to talk yourself out of loving someone because you think it hasn’t been enough time. When you know you know.
  5. You have to be okay with not being considered, invited, or included. It’s life and you can only expect people to be who they are, and not who you are or who you want them to be.

Eye Opener as we bring this year to a close

If you are a regular Let’s Talk Rae Style reader you know I write a lot about dating and relationships. I’m here to tell you that everything I thought I knew has been altered for the better when it comes to love, dating, and relationships! In the spiritual world time is fluid. I’m now a believer that in our current dimension when it comes to love time is fluid as well. We waste so much time trying to hide our true feelings because we don’t want to be hurt. Not realizing that displaying your feelings, dare I say being vulnerable is the only way to experience love in its purest form.

If a man or woman gives you the feels and you start to question yourself! Do yourself a favor, DON’T! Don’t question it just go with the feeling. Allow that person to love on you, support you emotionally, treat you well, pamper you, and whatever else you desire from a partner. It doesn’t matter if the relationship ends abruptly or has longevity. What matters is how you felt within that experience. Did you enjoy how you were treated and the time you spent together? Those are the events that you should be concerned with. We don’t possess people we experience them. Accept the love and don’t concern yourself with the timing. Answer when love calls..

Your life is your story. You’re the star and you have the right to demote and promote as you see fit to enhance your story! Make moves that accommodate you! There is simply NO TIME for anything else. I hope you all have a happy and prosperous New Year!

Cheers!

Female Rap

Last week I posted a video (Video is below) discussing how multiple female rappers are currently out, and releasing music. We haven’t had so many female rappers out at the same time since the 90s. In the video I forgot a lot of names of female rappers in the game right now. So, first I’d like to redefine the list of female rappers with current music in rotation. Continue reading “Female Rap”

Computer Love

 

 

Do you remember when the song Computer Love first debuted on the radio? I was a kid but I remember learning the lyrics and how to replicate the beat using my hands and chest. The 90s were truly a time to be alive and growing up! Who would’ve guessed that “Computer Love” would be a real thing?! People date and “kick it with” people online everyday now!

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Thirst Trappin

Social media is full of the “high horse men.” You know, the men that are constantly talking about women taking selfies or showing off their bodies for attention. Those same men are the ones giving the same women that they are complaining about all the likes, hearts, and heart eyes. Don’t get me wrong, I like the pictures too but Im not complaining about the picture either.

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Boss Moves

Everyone’s goal seems to be to make money. Even when you’re making money, the goal is to make more money- but when and where does it stop?  How much money do you have to make before the decision is made to continuously uplift and support your community?

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Woman to Woman

 

BEYOND TIRED

Listen! As a Black woman living in the USA, I am so tired! I’m tired of having to constantly defend myself. I’m tired of not being allowed to express myself in ways other women express themselves without being nailed to the cross. I’m tired of my wide nose, full lips, style of hair, and the size of my derrière being praised and glorified on women that do not look like me, share my culture, or my struggle. I’m tired of the world telling me that my thoughts and feelings do not matter! Continue reading “Woman to Woman”

Learning through reflection

 

 

The last year to date has been a transitional phase for me in so many ways. I’ve been on a spiritual journey since the end of 2016 and it entailed a lot. It required a lot from me in the process. I’ve basically been unlearning everything that I’ve been taught as “right or wrong.” Exploring the way I process information, and more importantly my self talk and doubts. Continue reading “Learning through reflection”

Motor City Pride Nazis and Chief Craig

THE FACTS WITH A SMIDGE OF SARCASM AND OPINION

Last weekend was Motor City Pride, and should have been a joyous weekend for the LGBTQ+ community and those who love and support them. However, to the surprise of Motor City Pride attendees, they were met by a hate group -The Neo Nazis! The Nazis marched through Downtown Detroit with AR-15s and at least two other types of guns, and had huge shield guards. Of course everyone was surprised except the Detroit Police Department and The Police Chief James Craig. Continue reading “Motor City Pride Nazis and Chief Craig”