Todays Black Activist!

It’s no secret that Black people in America have had a tremulous relationship with the Government and “Authority” figures altogether. From being beaten for speaking our native languages, being stripped from our original cultures and religions, to Black women being raped by slave masters to produce more slaves and separating us from our family and children, we have constantly been under attack and hunted by slave catchers- which now translates to the police.  Continue reading “Todays Black Activist!”

Mind your stimmy

Around this time last year we all were concerned about our health, safety and livelihood. Companies were laying off employees or cutting people hours drastically. Some were fortunate, so it seemed, to be able to work from home until further notice. Schools, childcare and eldercare centers were also closing until further notice, which also caused people to have to walk away from their jobs to care for their children or parents. This is only a snapshot of an exhaustive list that left many Americans wondering how they were going to live and pay their bills. Then real panic set in… tissue, lysol, soap and alcohol were all out-of-stock; along with bread and meat . We seemed to be on  the brink of food scarcity! The supply and demand equation suddenly was tested as more and more of the workforce was in limbo with if their job was secured or not!

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Flying high even when you feel low

This article is dedicated to Jas Waters (Jas Fly) a prominent journalist and writer on the hit show “This is Us” who committed suicide just before the quarantine was lifted. Jas was a successful Black woman who was at the height of her career. On the outside looking in, it appeared that life for Jas was good. She was financially stable, receiving notoriety for her work, and seemingly happy and living her life. Yet, and still, she had an internal battles that she succumbed. 

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Kwame Kilpatrick

Friday morning I headed out early to tend to my errands. I was finishing up and walking to my car when I took a look at my phone and saw that I had 7 text messages from different people. I started to get a tadbit nervous because I instantly got the feeling that everyone contacted me about the same thing, and I was just hoping it wasn’t about anything tragic. The first message was from my previous college professor whom I usually brunch or lunch with a few times a month. Her message was a link to an article stating that Kwame Kilpatrick would be released from prison early! Her text read “in case you didn’t know already.” I literally got in the car and screamed joyfully!

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No Time

Generally Speaking

It’s that time of year again! Another year is ending and a new year awaits us. I’m always excited about the New Year. It just feels like a fresh start on life. Not to mention it’s a great time to reflect on past events of your life, and plan out new territory you want to conquer in the future. It’s a time to make changes and free yourself of burdens if need be. Some of us do those things daily, but many of us don’t!

So what have we learned this year?!

Lessons of 2019

  1. Some men can’t handle being your friend once they realize the connection you had no longer exist. Which means their love was conditional. As long as they were able to control the narrative of the relationship and dictate what happens everything is great. But, the minute you move on and accept them as a past experience you become the devil. That’s not love or friendship it’s simply an unhealthy male ego!
  2. Some friends you can talk to about anything. Then there are some friends that you have to select what you can share with them. All friends aren’t good listeners because they can’t hear anything beyond their own perspective or reality.
  3. Some friends are in a secret competition with you, which means you already won. But, you have to realize that friendships of that magnitude are limited. Is that really even a friend?
  4. Love has no time frame, so don’t try to talk yourself out of loving someone because you think it hasn’t been enough time. When you know you know.
  5. You have to be okay with not being considered, invited, or included. It’s life and you can only expect people to be who they are, and not who you are or who you want them to be.

Eye Opener as we bring this year to a close

If you are a regular Let’s Talk Rae Style reader you know I write a lot about dating and relationships. I’m here to tell you that everything I thought I knew has been altered for the better when it comes to love, dating, and relationships! In the spiritual world time is fluid. I’m now a believer that in our current dimension when it comes to love time is fluid as well. We waste so much time trying to hide our true feelings because we don’t want to be hurt. Not realizing that displaying your feelings, dare I say being vulnerable is the only way to experience love in its purest form.

If a man or woman gives you the feels and you start to question yourself! Do yourself a favor, DON’T! Don’t question it just go with the feeling. Allow that person to love on you, support you emotionally, treat you well, pamper you, and whatever else you desire from a partner. It doesn’t matter if the relationship ends abruptly or has longevity. What matters is how you felt within that experience. Did you enjoy how you were treated and the time you spent together? Those are the events that you should be concerned with. We don’t possess people we experience them. Accept the love and don’t concern yourself with the timing. Answer when love calls..

Your life is your story. You’re the star and you have the right to demote and promote as you see fit to enhance your story! Make moves that accommodate you! There is simply NO TIME for anything else. I hope you all have a happy and prosperous New Year!

Cheers!

Colorism and nappy hair

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COLORISM IS STILL A THING! Unfortunately we have Black celebrities making negative comments about the richness of chocolate skin! We have to hold everyone accountable. It’s a hard lesson on thinking before you speak. Not to mention that it is extremely important to dig deep and educate oneself on why a person has those types of feelings. Eva of #RHOA constantly makes distasteful comments about skin color and hair texture. Then she back pedals when called out on her nonsense! Continue reading “Colorism and nappy hair”

Female Rap

Last week I posted a video (Video is below) discussing how multiple female rappers are currently out, and releasing music. We haven’t had so many female rappers out at the same time since the 90s. In the video I forgot a lot of names of female rappers in the game right now. So, first I’d like to redefine the list of female rappers with current music in rotation. Continue reading “Female Rap”

Boss Moves

Everyone’s goal seems to be to make money. Even when you’re making money, the goal is to make more money- but when and where does it stop?  How much money do you have to make before the decision is made to continuously uplift and support your community?

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Woman to Woman

 

BEYOND TIRED

Listen! As a Black woman living in the USA, I am so tired! I’m tired of having to constantly defend myself. I’m tired of not being allowed to express myself in ways other women express themselves without being nailed to the cross. I’m tired of my wide nose, full lips, style of hair, and the size of my derrière being praised and glorified on women that do not look like me, share my culture, or my struggle. I’m tired of the world telling me that my thoughts and feelings do not matter! Continue reading “Woman to Woman”